Thursday, September 26, 2019

UMass Amherst Pre-College

UMass Amherst Pre-College is pleased to announce a series of academic enrichment workshops for high school students over the coming academic year at the Mount Ida campus. We are excited to engage Boston area students in academic programming that highlights the capabilities of the Newton campus.


UMass at Mount Ida will offer free workshops in Sports Management, Innovation and Technology and Creative Writing. The day will begin at 10 am and conclude at 3 pm. Free to all high school students currently enrolled in grades 9 – 12, these workshops are interactive, experiential, and provide a sample of what precollege students experience during the UMass summer programs.
Staff will be available to discuss the Pre-College experiences at UMass. Participants will meet students with similar interests from other Boston area schools.

Wednesday, September 25, 2019

Sunday, September 22, 2019

Article - Time to Make the Donuts

TIME TO MAKE THE DONUTS

We don’t watch a lot of TV in our house. In fact, until recently we only had Amazon and Netflix. But as big soccer fans we broke down earlier this summer and got a few cable channels so we could watch the Women’s World Cup. Now with college football upon us we (okay, I…) decided not to pull the plug just yet.
The other day at a commercial break I muted the TV and our 8-year old daughter looked at me as though I had thrown her favorite stuffed animal away.
“What? It’s just a commercial,” I said bemused.
She gave me the international facial expression for “What?!!!” and replied, “I know! That’s my favorite part.”
They seem to be big fans of GEICO and the Michael BublĂ© ad about sparkling water. However, understanding their sample size is limited to about four months and less than 10 channels, I searched “best commercials ever.” (I do realize that by providing this link you well may not read further, but I can’t hide gold from you.)
The phrase “internet rabbit hole” does not adequately describe what happened next, and before we knew it, we heard a car door slam and saw my wife on the back porch. The kids dashed into the other room and picked up books to feign reading.
“All finished with homework?”
“Uhhhh… pretty close. Yeah.”
Real Life Catchphrases
Whether they be movie quotes or pithy lines from commercials, what sticks with us are phrases that we can apply to everyday life. Can you say, “Dilly dilly!”
One phrase admission directors around the country are saying right now is, “Time to make the donuts!” It comes from this campy 1981 Dunkin Donuts commercial. It’s not polished, the acting is terrible, and the production costs had to be close to $0. But “time to make the donuts” caught on. For a solid decade (and occasionally even today) you would hear that reference as people headed to work, went in to take to take a test, or dealt with a variety of imperative tasks.  Now that classes on college campuses have resumed, admission deans and directors are waking up with those words on their minds. Time to do this again.
Before they start frosting, baking, or reaching for the powdered sugar, they start by talking to the shop owner, e.g. president, provost, board of trustees, deans, and so on. (please don’t tell them I made this parallel). Essentially, we need answers to two questions.
  1. What kind of donuts do you want this year?
Known as “institutional priorities” this helps donut makers determine the proportion and representation of certain flavors, such as demographics. Everyone on a college campus has their own opinions about which ingredients are essential. Deans from each academic unit will want more or less students in their program depending on faculty: student ratios or the health of job prospects in their industry. For example, Tech recently added a major in Music Technology. That means students who may not have been a good fit in the past are now very much on our radar. Conversely, if a college enrolled too many computer science or biology majors the year prior, or if they eliminated a major or a sport, the strawberry sprinkles or maple frosting that were popular in the past may not be as much of a priority in this year’s batch.
A college seeking to increase its academic profile will create a different mix than one whose primary objective is to increase international diversity, raise net tuition revenue, bolster its percentage of first-generation students, or enroll a student from each state. If a school does not enroll “enough” business majors one year, the next fall that donut maker is told to ensure more business donuts are included and prioritized. Therefore, not only do admit rates vary based upon donut type, but financial aid packages do as well. Bottom line: the mix matters. While I’m a sucker for the “Hot Doughnuts Now” sign at Krispy Kreme, I’d be fired if our class was made up completely of cinnamon donuts.
2. What is the size of our box?
Each school has a different quantity target. A dozen, two dozen, 64 count of munchkins? It’s not the same from school to school—and interestingly it’s not always the same from year to year.
There are lots of reasons why the quantity changes: a university adds a new dorm, the public system issues an edict that demands the addition of 200 more students in this year’s class, the list goes on. Virginia Tech made news this summer by over-enrolling their first year class by 1,000. That is absolutely going to have an impact on the type and number of Hokie donuts moving forward.  Conversely, Bucknell missed their class target in 2019, so you can guarantee the Bison donut factory is altering their formula as they make admission decisions and determine financial aid packages in this year’s batch.
What does this mean for you?
  • You are not necessarily competing against ALL other applicants.
Public schools in North Carolina are legislated to enroll at least 82% of their class from their state. In other words, the Tarheel Donut Shop is largely locally sourced. You may be the sweetest, most flavorful spice out there, but if you were grown in Boston or Chicago, your odds of being included in that lovely sky-blue box are simply not as high as those grown in Wilmington or Asheville.
Fair? No. This is a donut making. The state you are from, the major you want to study, or the background and interests you bring to the table (pun intended), dictate your admission prospects.
  • Ask specific questions.
When you visit the campuses you’re interested in, ask them about students like you. “What is the admit rate from my state?” “Do you make admission decisions based upon the major I’m applying for?” These answers will help you determine how percentages vary beyond the macro statistics published on outward facing sites. At Tech our Early Action admit rate is higher than our Regular Decision admit rate, often by more than 15 percentage points. Part of that is driven by the fact that Georgia students apply early, and our total undergraduate population is 60% Georgia. Historically our most talented in-state students apply in the first round. Takeaway: Don’t just look at the numbers—ask them to give you nuance within the stats too.
Some schools won’t know all the various admit rates or demographics off the top of their head. Are they trying to protect their recipe? Usually not. A donut maker (admission rep) walking around your school in the fall has his/her mind on telling the story of the shop (university). That’s not cagey. It’s human. Ask them to get back to you with the answers. This demonstrates your interests, continues the conversation, and gives you a better understanding of how donuts like you are viewed.
The truth is when you ask these questions to highly selective schools nationally (less than a 20% admit rate), you’ll often get a confounding answer that sounds a lot like a Jedi mind trick or political stump speech. Don’t be frustrated. Just translate that as a reminder that there are scores of donut shops around your state and thousands in the country.
  • Control what you can control.
Your job is to express your flavor on your application and send it to a variety of shops with different size boxes and admit rate ranges. You cannot control the year you were born, or the macro directives or strategic changes made in boardrooms around the country. An admit rate might rise or fall the year you are applying to a specific school. That impacts you, but it’s not really about you. Quit comparing yourself to older siblings or classmates or teammates.
If you are looking at highly selective schools, you very well may end up in a different place than you have in mind right now. But the fact that you read this entire post, rather than getting totally derailed by random commercial links, gives me 100% confidence there is a donut maker waking up today who can’t wait to get you into their shop. And trust me, they are going to ensure the other donuts in the box around you are just as unique, interesting, and flavorful as you!
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Friday, September 20, 2019

Class of 2020 - Friday Updates 9/20/19

Seniors: If you have decided to apply early with an October 15 deadline for any of your colleges, you must notify your counselor ASAP (the deadline was September 16) and complete your senior meeting by September 27.

If you have decided to apply early with a November 1 deadline, you must notify your counselor by September 24 and complete your senior meeting by October 16.

ACT

TODAY is the last day to register for the October 26 test date without paying a late registration fee.

SAT 

October 2 is the registration deadline for the November 2 test date.

Open Houses and Information Sessions

Boston STEM College and Career Fair 
October 27, 2019
FREE and open to the public, the fair is for college-bound students interested in college majors and careers in engineering, medicine, computer science, and other STEM fields.
https://www.nacacfairs.org/attend/stem-college-and-career-fairs/boston-stem-college-and-career-fair/

University of Massachusetts Lowell Open House
September 21 and October 27
www.uml.edu

University of Massachusetts Boston Annual Fall Open House
October 19
Learn more and register at www.umb.edu/openhouse


Bentley University Fall Open House 
Sunday, October 6, 2019
Register at www.bentley.edu

Seton Hall University Fall Open House
October 27 or November 24
https://www.shu.edu/undergraduate-admissions/open-house.cfm

Assumption College Open House
Sunday October 20, 10am - 2:30pm
Discovery Day: October 4, 25, and November 15
Hound Day: October 5
Get more information and register at www.assumption.edu

Ursinus College Saturday Visits
October 5, November 2, November 23, and December 7
Fall Open House
Saturday October 19
Discover Ursinus
Monday October 7
www.ursinus.edu/visit

Oberlin College Information Session
Sunday September 22
4-6pm
Arnold Arboretum
Weld Hill Research Building
1300 Centre Street
Boston, MA 02131
https://connect.oberlin.edu/register/boston2019

Explore Engineering, an overnight event for high school girls at Sweet Briar College
October 25-26
Participants will work in teams with engineering professors and students to imagine and bring to life a computer-controlled, interactive Halloween device. The event is hands-on, stresses teamwork and creativity, and is perfect for both experienced students and newbies to engineering.
Get more information and register!

Navigating the College Search Process for Students with Learning Differences, AD/HD & Executive Function Challenges


Navigating the College Search Process for 
Students with Learning Differences, 
AD/HD & 
Executive Function Challenges: 

A Workshop for High School Students and Their Families



Please join us for an informative presentation 


Tuesday, October 8, 2019
  6:30 p.m.- 8:00 p.m.

Curry College
1071 Blue Hill Avenue
Milton, MA 


 Featuring
Paula Cocce
Program for Advancement of Learning
Curry College  

                                                                                     
For more information, or to register for this event, please contact  
Elizabeth Burroughs, Associate Director of Admission 
eburroughs@curry.edu or (617) 333-2210
Space is limited! 


Friday, September 13, 2019

Class of 2020- Friday Updates

This week, the Counseling Department presented about the college process to the Class of 2020 and their parents/guardians. For those interested, the slideshow can be found on the WA Guidance website under Guidance Presentations, "Senior Parent Night - Fall 2019" or by following this link: 
We look forward to working with you over the next few months.
ACT

The registration deadline for the October 26 test is September 20, 2019. 

The registration deadline for the December 14 test is November 8, 2019.

SAT

The registration deadline for the November 2 test is October 2, 2019

The registration deadline for the December 7 test is November 7, 2019.

CAREER EDUCATION

NEIT Open Houses
Nursing/Health Sciences Day: Friday October 18
Transportation/Criminal Justice Day: November 8
Engineering/Building Technologies/Digital Media & Management Day: November 22
Register at NEIT.edu/CareerEducation

Peterson School Open House / Career Fair on November 7, 2019 from 1-4PM at our Woburn & Westwood locations and from 2-5PM at our Worcester location.  We would love to have your students/teachers/and or parents in attendance to see what kind of opportunities are out there in the trades!  Our hope in hosting an event of this kind is to be able to assist current students and graduates in finding job opportunities and also to show perspective students what kind of job opportunities and education is out there upon graduation.   We will have instructors there to show demonstrations in the labs along with being available for questions.   

WA COLLEGE VISITS


COLLEGE OPPORTUNITIES - OPEN HOUSES AND INFORMATION SESSIONS

Anna Maria College Open Houses
October 19, 2019
November 3, 2019
Information sessions: September 28, October 5, October 14, and November 11
www.annamaria.edu/admission/visit

Dickinson College Fall Open Houses
September 21
October 14
November 9



Hamilton College Saturdays
Every Satruday through November 16, 2019
Please visit hamilton.edu/saturdays for more information

The College of New Jersey Lions Day Open House
Saturday September 14
Sunday, October 13
Saturday, November 16
RSVP at visit.tcnj.edu

Olin College of Engineering Open Houses
Women's Open House on Sunday, September 29 

Fall Open House on Saturday, November 9. 

Refuge Lowell Portfolio Development Classes
Run weekly
Tufts University Open Houses
Engineering: October 18
Arts and Humanities: October 11
Women in Engineering: September 20
Arts (Fenway Campus): October 18
STEM: October 11

University of Connecticut Open Houses
Saturday, September 21, 2019
Sunday, October 20, 2019

Students can register online at admissions.uconn.edu/open-house.

University of Massachusetts Dartmouth Open House
Saturday October 19 (RSVP by Oct. 14)
Sunday November 3 (RSVP by Nov. 3)
RSVP at umassd.edu/openhouse 

Worcester Polytechnic Institute Fall Open Houses
September 28
October 26
November 11
Visit wpi.edu/+OH for more details, a sample schedule and to register.

Miami University's Bridges Program application is available for students. This year's application deadline is September 27, 2019.

The Bridges Program is an overnight visit experience for high-achieving high school seniors from historically underrepresented populations or who are committed to promoting a deeper understanding of and appreciation for diversity. We welcome various diverse identities — racial/ethnic, sexual orientation and gender identity, and socioeconomic.
Students who complete Bridges and enroll on the Oxford campus for Fall 2020 will be eligible to receive the Bridges Program scholarship. Last year, the Bridges Program scholarship ranged from $2,500 to $5,000 annually. Students can "stack" this scholarship with other Miami awards, which means multiple scholarships can be used for student expenses. In fact, most Bridges participants receive multiple awards, for total values ranging from half to full tuition.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us at 513-529-2531 or outreach@MiamiOH.edu.

The 
Voices of Tufts Diversity Experiences are overnight visit programs for prospective applicants to discover Tufts by interacting with current students, staff, and faculty. While Voices has traditionally attracted participants from varied backgrounds—including students of color, first generation college-bound students, LGBT students, students from low-income backgrounds, and students from rural communities—any high school senior interested in learning more about diversity at Tufts is welcome to apply.

The Voices Engineering Experience will take place October 17-18, 2019 with an application deadline of 5:00 PM ET on October 1, and the Voices Arts & Sciences Experience will take place October 24-25, 2019 with an application deadline of October 8 at 5:00 PM ET. The priority deadline for prospective Arts & Sciences students seeking travel assistance funding is October 3. Participating students will be housed with a current undergraduate on campus and all meals will be provided. Travel assistance is available for those students for whom the trip to campus would be a financial hardship. For more information about Voices and the application process, please view our website at http://admissions.tufts.edu/voices/.


September is National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month

NIMH - Suicide in America - FAQ's

September 15 - October 15 marks National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Suicide is a major public health problem and a leading cause of death in the U.S. The effects of suicide go beyond the person who acts to take their own life: it can have a lasting effect on family, friends, and communities. The information in this article from the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) can help counselors, teachers, parents, and students learn more about the signs and symptoms, risk factors and warning signs of suicide and suicide prevention.

What Is Suicide? 
Suicide is when people direct violence at themselves with the intent to end their lives, and they die because of their actions. It’s best to avoid the use of terms like “committing suicide” or a “successful suicide” when referring to a death by suicide as these terms often carry negative connotations. A suicide attempt is when people harm themselves with the intent to end their lives, but they do not die because of their actions.

Who Is at Risk for Suicide?
Suicide does not discriminate. People of all genders, ages, and ethnicities can be at risk. The main risk factors for suicide are:
• A prior suicide attempt
• Depression and other mental health disorders
• Substance abuse disorder
• Family history of a mental health or substance abuse disorder
• Family history of suicide
• Family violence, including physical or sexual abuse
• Having guns or other firearms in the home
• Being in prison or jail
• Being exposed to others’ suicidal behavior, such as a family member, peer, or media figure
• Medical illness
• Being between the ages of 15 and 24 years or over age 60

Even among people who have risk factors for suicide, most do not attempt suicide. It remains difficult to predict who will act on suicidal thoughts.

Are certain groups of people at higher risk than others? 
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), men are more likely to die by suicide than women, but women are more likely to attempt suicide. Men are more likely to use more lethal methods, such as firearms or suffocation. Women are more likely than men to attempt suicide by poisoning. Also per the CDC, certain demographic subgroups are at higher risk. For example, American Indian and Alaska Native youth and middle-aged persons have the highest rate of suicide, followed by non-Hispanic White middle-aged and older adult males. African Americans have the lowest suicide rate, while Hispanics have the second lowest rate. The exception to this is younger children. African American children under the age of 12 have a higher rate of suicide than White children. While younger preteens and teens have a lower rate of suicide than older adolescents, there has been a significant rise in the suicide rate among youth ages 10 to 14. Suicide ranks as the second leading cause of death for this age group, accounting for 425 deaths per year and surpassing the death rate for traffic accidents, which is the most common cause of death for young people.

What Are the Warning Signs of Suicide? 
The behaviors listed below may be signs that someone is thinking about suicide.
• Talking about wanting to die or wanting to kill themselves
• Talking about feeling empty, hopeless, or having no reason to live
• Planning or looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online, stockpiling pills, or newly acquiring potentially lethal items (e.g., firearms, ropes)
• Talking about great guilt or shame
• Talking about feeling trapped or feeling that there are no solutions
• Feeling unbearable pain, both physical or emotional
• Talking about being a burden to others
• Using alcohol or drugs more often
• Acting anxious or agitated
• Withdrawing from family and friends
• Changing eating and/or sleeping habits
• Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
• Taking risks that could lead to death, such as reckless driving
• Talking or thinking about death often
• Displaying extreme mood swings, suddenly changing from very sad to very calm or happy
• Giving away important possessions
• Saying goodbye to friends and family
• Putting affairs in order, making a will

What Should I Do if I Am in Crisis or Someone I Know Is Considering Suicide? 
If you or someone you know has warning signs or symptoms of suicide, particularly if there is a change in the behavior or a new behavior, get help as soon as possible. Often, family and friends are the first to recognize the warning signs of suicide and can take the first step toward helping an at-risk individual find treatment with someone who specializes in diagnosing and treating mental health conditions. If someone is telling you that they are going to kill themselves, do not leave them alone. Do not promise anyone that you will keep their suicidal thoughts a secret. Make sure to tell a trusted friend or family member, or if you are a student, an adult with whom you feel comfortable. You can also contact the resources noted below.

What if Someone Is Posting Suicidal Messages on Social Media?
Knowing how to get help for a friend posting suicidal messages on social media can save a life. Many social media sites have a process to report suicidal content and get help for the person posting the message. In addition, many of the social media sites use their analytic capabilities to identify and help report suicidal posts. Each offers different options on how to respond if you see concerning posts about suicide.

For example:
• Facebook Suicide Prevention webpage can be found at www.facebook.com/help/[use the search term “suicide” or “suicide prevention”].
• Instagram uses automated tools in the app to provide resources, which can also be found online at https://help.instagram.com [use the search term, “suicide,” self-injury,” or “suicide prevention”]
• Snapchat’s Support provides guidance at https://support.snapchat.com [use the search term, “suicide” or “suicide prevention”]
• Tumblr Counseling and Prevention Resources webpage can be found at https://tumblr.zendesk.com [use the search term “counseling” or “prevention,” then click on “Counseling and prevention resources”].
• Twitter’s Best Practices in Dealing With Self-Harm and Suicide at https://support.twitter.com [use the search term “suicide,” “self-harm,” or “suicide prevention”].
• YouTube’s Safety Center webpage can be found at https://support.google.com/youtube [use the search term “suicide and self injury”].

If you see messages or live streaming suicidal behavior on social media, call 911 or contact the toll-free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1–800–273–TALK (8255), or text the Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741) available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Deaf and hard-of-hearing individuals can contact the Lifeline via TTY at 1–800–799–4889. All calls are confidential. This service is available to everyone. People—even strangers—have saved lives by being vigilant.

Thursday, September 12, 2019

Article - A teacher’s five tips for this year’s high school juniors

For the past 15 years, I’ve taught high school English in both public and private schools, in rural and urban settings, and to kids of every socio-economic background, race, ability-level and motivational drive. Despite this professional variety, one detail has remained constant for me: I’ve always taught at least one class of juniors. And because of this, I’ve written hundreds of college recommendation letters.
It’s an important job. Although I know my letter won’t be the deciding factor in a student’s admittance to an institution, I’ve been told by college counselors and admissions officers that my comments personalize the process and hold legitimate sway. So, I do the best I can. These are four years of someone’s life, after all. Not that long by most adult standards. But for a 17-year-old? I try to remember exactly what my students feel they are entrusting me with.
When my most recent batch of juniors came to me, requesting I write on their behalf, I said yes. And then thought about all the things they either did or didn’t do over the course of their junior year in my class that I either could or could not write about. I wished, 15 years in, I would have placed a quick pause on my introductory lesson for American Lit and instead begun a little life chat. Here are five pieces of advice I’d like to share now:
  • Be present: Physically, sure. Attendance helps. But I’m talking about engagement. Even if you’re not loving “The Great Gatsby,” even if you’re not reading “The Great Gatsby” (you are reading it, right?)show me that you’re thinking about it, searching for its relevance, listening to the connections your classmates are making, asking good questions. Nothing impresses me more than a student who is able to show up to class every day, convinced there is something to be learned.
  • Be courageous: Speak up. Admit you don’t understand, or that you do. Ask another student to clarify — even the kid you’re certain is getting an A. Be honest about what you believe. If you feel those beliefs evolving, try to sidestep fear and pay attention. Even when it’s risky, write what you want to write. Remember, as Emerson insists, “Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.”
  • Be collaborative: Most people would agree that our current political and societal discourse is, in a word, disharmonious. So, it is ever more necessary that people learn to sit with those of differing opinions and backgrounds, listen to one another and work together. Whether you like group projects or not, understand these assessments are microcosms for the world you are about to enter. Extrovert, introvert, leader or follower — whatever you are, be certain you remember the table Hughes describes, and that you make space around it for a variety of voices.
  • Be curious: The easiest letters I write are about kids who are intrinsically interested. They stay after class to keep discussing Cather or they ask for more stories by Cisneros or they want to know — really know — why it is that when O’Brien writes a certain way, they feel like they’re not just reading about the jungles of Vietnam, but actually there, covered in blood and sweat and regret. These conversations have nothing to do with grades or, God forbid, points. They are about wonder. About a quest for knowledge. About all that cannot be seen — yet. Your capacity for awe and attraction to inquiry say a lot about your readiness for higher education, so let your interests lead.
  • Be grateful: The fact that you are even considering college is a testament to your privilege. You can read. You can write. You have been shown how to join the conversation. These are life-changing, life-giving tools. So please, appreciate your school; regardless of your experience in any one class, as a collective, your school has given you an education that many teenagers around the world would risk their lives for. And appreciate your teachers, too. They are not perfect. They are tired on Monday mornings just like you. If their stupid jokes make the top of your head feel like it’s been taken off, I know it’s probably not for the same reason Dickinson describes. But help a teacher out: Laugh anyway.
These tips are not exclusive to students looking for a good letter of recommendation, or even those interested in attending college at all. They are life lessons I wish I had known when I was 17 — that kid who tolerated math and adored English, the one who wanted to do well, but operated mostly on a nebulous instinct. Relax, I want to tell her. The next stage of life will arrive without you racing toward it. For now, for these last two years of high school, in every way you can, show up. Treat each day like the curiosity it is. See what you can learn.
As I return to the classroom this fall, my first year in which I’ll be trading out junior classes for senior ones, I am anticipating a few more requests for letters. But most requests will be for other things: college talk, fresh eyes on an original poem, a little encouragement when it comes to maneuvering through another still-awkward homecoming dance. For the most part, my recommendations will remain the same: Be present. Be grateful. Make it worth writing about.

Emily Brisse, a teacher and writer, is at work on a novel related to education. Connect with her on Instagram at @emilybrisse.

Article - Top Ten Back-to-School Tips to Help Your Child Thrive

Back-to-School Tips

Top Ten Back-to-School Tips to Help Your Child Thrive

  1. Ask your child: “How was your day? Learn anything interesting? Get to spend time with friends?” instead of “How did you do on the math test?”
  1. Resist the urge to correct the errors in your child’s homework. It’s your child’s work, not yours.  
  1. Work done with integrity is more important than an A. Pressure to achieve only high grades can make students resort to cheating.
  1. Make time for PDF:  playtime, downtime, family time. Research shows PDF is critical for overall well-being.
  1. Create a technology-free environment during mealtimes. Every adult and child can benefit from a break from constant interruptions and distractions.
  1. Collaborate with your child’s teachers. Assume best intentions and work together to solve problems.
  1. Fight the temptation to bring your child’s forgotten homework to school. Kids gain resilience by learning from small failures.
  1. An extra hour of sleep is more valuable than an extra hour of studying. Research shows sleep deprivation can be associated with depression and anxiety. 
  1. When your child wants to talk with you, stop what you are doing and engage. Does “I hate school” really mean something else:  “I am being bullied” or “I don’t fit in?”  
  1. Help your child develop his or her interests and strengths. Discover what your child really loves to do outside of school, not what you think a college admissions officer would like to see on an application.